"Better Man" is a song written by Taylor. It was recorded by American country group Little Big Town for their eighth studio album, "The Breaker", which was released on February 24, 2017. The song was released as the album's lead single on October 20, 2016. Its music video was released on November 1, 2016. "Better Man" won the award for "Song of the Year" at the 2017 CMA Awards, an award that goes directly to the songwriter -- Taylor.
The song was (reportedly) written about the breakup of the relationship of Taylor with Scottish DJ Calvin Harris. According to group member Karen Fairchild, Taylor thought of the group because of the harmonies, and sent the song to them.
BACKGROUND
What lead Little Big Town to cut the song began with an email from Taylor to band member Phillip Sweet. The email included a demo of the song:
"I wrote this song and I keep hearing your voices on it. I know you're making a record - if you want to cut it, great. If not, no big deal." -- Taylor Swift
"We thanked the good Lord it didn't go in his spam folder," Sweet's bandmate Kimberly Schlapman joked to PEOPLE Magazine. Sweet sent the demo to the rest of the band, and there was an unanimous, enthusiastic vote to record it. "We all listened to it individually and then we were on the road with Luke Bryan all year," Schlapman said. "So every evening in the dressing room when we were getting ready, we would play the song over and over and over. Instantly that chorus had us hooked. The lush harmony felt so much like us!"
CRITICAL RECEPTION
Kevin John Coyne of Country Universe rated the song "A", saying that "It’s a concept that is grounded in so much truth that I’m amazed I’ve never heard it approached this way before" and "The writers do a great job of capturing both why [the song's narrator] stayed so long and why she had to leave, and all of the conflicting feelings that go along with that." Taste of Country writer Billy Dukes also praised the song, saying that "This song isn’t as jarring as some of the quartet’s most recent hits. In fact, the mistreatment of women is only vaguely alluded to — there’s no one line that burns the hair off the back of your neck. Jay Joyce’s arrangement is soft but not stark. It’s among his more mainstream productions. Still, it’s clear Fairchild’s protagonist is reeling from a love that went very, very wrong."
CHART PERFORMANCE
The song sold 6'000 copies on its first day of release, enough to allow the song to enter the Hot Country Songs chart at No. 41. It sold 20,000 the following week, and rose to No. 20 in the chart. In its third week it sold a further 47,000 copies and climbed further to No. 6. On the Hot Country Songs chart dated February 11, 2017, "Better Man" reached number one, earning the group their third leader.
ACCOLADES
"Better Man" won the award for "Song of the Year" at the 2017 CMAs and was nominated for "Best Country Song" at the 2018 GRAMMY Awards.
I know I'm probably better off on my own
Than lovin' a man who didn't know
What he had when he had it
And I see the permanent damage you did to me
Never again, I just wish I could forget when it was magic
I wish it wasn't four am, standing in the mirror
Saying to myself, you know you had to do it I know
The bravest thing I ever did was run
Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again
But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
And I know why we had to say goodbye
Like the back of my hand
And I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
A better man
I know I'm probably better off all alone
Than needing a man who could change his mind at any given minute
And it's always on your terms
I'm hanging on every careless word
Hoping it might turn sweet again
Like it was in the beginning
But your jealousy, I can hear it now
You're talking down to me like I'll always be around
You push my love away like it's some kind of loaded gun
Boy, you never thought I'd run
Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again
But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
And I know why we had to say goodbye
Like the back of my hand
And I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
A better man
Better man
I hold onto this pride because these days it's all I have
And I gave you my best and we both know you can't say that
You can't say that
I wish you were a better man
I wonder what we would've become
If you were a better man
We might still be in love
If you were a better man
You would've been the one
If you were a better man
Yeah, yeah
Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again
And I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
And I know why we had to say goodbye
Like the back of my hand
And I just miss you and I just wish you were a better man
We might still be in love, if you were a better man
Better man
Written by: Taylor Swift